I have a problem.

Its kind of a big problem.
My problem is:
People
piss
me
off
.

Yes... I know this is a wide-spread epidemic that a lot of people suffer from, but seriously! Now there are a lot of reasons why people piss me off, but this blog/rant is for one reason and one reason only: Honesty.

Why is it so friggen' hard to be honest with people?

I know I'm not the best person to really bitch about this here cuz I, myself am currently under construction in this department (shocking, I know) but it's just been bugging me so bad lately. If I ask you... "Is the sky blue?" and you tell me, "No, it's actually purple" and give me the most convincing, oscar winning reason of why.... that still doesn't make it true! Why do people feel the need to always beat around the bush when a simple "yes" or "no" will do? I just don't understand why it is so hard to say what you think/feel/want/need. If someone asks you what the answer to that questions is- they obviously want to know. Actually, they might not and you may know that but if you answer and they don't like the response, they can't blame you because they asked in the first place. People don't need to be told what they'd like to hear. That's why there's so many arrogant, snot nosed, know it all's running around the planet thinking that people owe them something, (i.e. Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Kanye West, etc.)

People need reality, they need the truth. Lies are not going to help in the long run. Little lies just snowball into big lies that eventually blow up in someones face. And here, you were worried about hurting them in the first place so you weren't totally honest, and now you're surprised that they ended up hurting even more when the bomb went off in their face? (And yes, I may have been channeling something there for a second. Sorry.)

For those Buffy the Vampire Slayer geeks out there: think Anya. She says exactly what she thinks/feels and does so without apology. Now, maybe she is a little extreme and a bit of tact is always nice but it's still the point of saying what everyone else is thinking and wants to say but doesn't have the balls to actually do so. I can appreciate an ounce or two of that in a person.

I'm just tired of the b.s. If I ask for your opinion: give it to me honestly. Don't avoid it and dance around the question - just answer it. It doesn't have to be - mean, in my face, rotten, and harsh kinda of honesty. A little finess would be appreciated from any party, I'm sure, but please just make your response your 100% true feelings. Unless I specifically say "Lie to me", then don't. Might it hurt my poor little feelings? Yeah, but it'll help me more if I know how you feel sooner rather than later. "What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger," right?

And if you ask someone to be honest with you, and it's not exactly what you wanted or thought you'd hear... you can't blame a person for being honest. Who really wants to be lied to? I don't think its wrong, however, to rebut a little and share the reasons why you may/may not agree as long as that's done in an apropriate way (i.e. discussing not arguing) but I still think 'honesty is the best policy.' (Great... now I sound like a grade school teacher.)

So there you have it. My little rant of the day. Is honesty really a lot to ask of people? I just think if people would be more honest with each other... and themselves... it'd make a whole lot of stuff and whole lot easier for everyone. Seems like I'm the only one who really thinks that way anymore though.

K. I'm done ranting now. I promise I'll write a non-negative blog.... eventually. :)